Let me lay a scenario out for you. The alarm rings and you hit the snooze for the third time. Any minute the kids will be up, so you drag yourself out of bed. You stayed up way too late last night cleaning and finishing the report due for work, and then the baby was up several times with teething issues. You are exhausted, but you have no choice – you start your day.

Next comes breakfast, getting the kids ready for school, checking and rechecking backpacks, packing lunches and carpool. Add in calling to confirm the plumber, doctor appointments for physicals, preschool drop off, work, meetings, preschool pickups, and finally lunch. That’s just before noon! By the time it’s bedtime for the kiddos, you are even more exhausted, but there is still more to do.

After all, your spouse is gone once again.

Another deployment/workup has taken control of your lives. You tell yourself that you can handle anything until you are reunited; that it isn’t too long and once they get home, then you will take some time to yourself. However, you can feel yourself unraveling very slowly. You need a break and some time to breathe, but how can you possibly fit that into your hectic life?

That is why I created this guide! This guide focuses directly on you and gives you some simple steps to be able to identify and work on yourself each and every month. Whether you are male or female, with kids or without, we all have needs: it’s time to start focusing on those needs.